As a parent of a normally very active and sweet child it always astounds me when the other side of her erupts. It is ugly and now that she is becoming older her words are getting uglier. It often goes from sweet to nasty in 60 seconds or less and the trigger is ALWAYS a request of what needs to be accomplished and the timeframe in which it needs to accomplished in. We know as parents that there will be resistance, nastiness and then tears of regret after punishment; but regardless of the cycle we are still the parents and she (regardless of her struggles) must comply to reasonable requests like brushing her teeth.
Every child shows anger in their own way. Preschool girls tend to cry, throw fits, scream and withdraw. Preschool boys can get very interesting. Quite often in the case of boys they can get combative, toss toys, kick, knock things over; much like Taz they will tear through your classroom and then when it is over look as angelic as they did before it began. I do not want to give the impression that Preschool girls do not react as boys do-they can; I have just shared the most common reactions I have seen. What both boys and girls can do when they are really having difficulty is have accidents (yes on purpose), refuse to eat and refuse to sleep. When you think about it the only thing a child can truly control is the bodily fluids, eating and sleeping, thus they will exercise this control when they need to as well. This, I can say, is not fun for the parent or the teacher.
•Giving a directive of any kind (especially when an activity must be stopped)
•The word "no" or "stop"
•Changes in schedule
•Changes in common places. For example: going to the movies in a different theater, not the "same" one
•Items involved in rituals missing. For example: a favorite blanket for bedtime
•Not being listened to or not understanding them when they are trying to tell you something or request something
•Playing with others is always unpredictable
•Teacher changes or substitute teachers